Young people live in their own world. In their own click that brings them together and closes most adults out. Throughout time, youth has put a distinction between themselves and their parents’ generation, which they regard as “elderly” people unable to understand them and their problems or to remember what it was like to be young.
But we do remember it. We try to explain that it simply is not so inconceivably long ago we ourselves were young, we remember and know how it was, yes that we in fact consider ourselves young even today. We have not forgotten the years of shy tumultuous love affairs, desperate defiance, delicious bright days – and bottomless darkness – all influenced by what we can now look back on as trifles, but that once was “vital”. We remember dependence on friends in the clique and who currently was the subject of our abject admiration.
They may not believe us, our young ones, when we try to explain that we understand, remember and know how it was. But we can at least try to show our willingness to cooperate. No parent likes their children hanging around on street corners in late evening hours, and the young people themselves may well dislike it as well, but they give give us the reason why: We have nowhere to stay.
Here is where we can help by letting our son or daughter invite their clique home. The party may be simple enough. Young people have few demands in such matters. The most important thing is to be together.
Type of Parties
Parties in youth gatherings can vary – Let the young ones decide themselves. It may be as simple as hot dogs and coke, the girls may account for sandwiches while the boys bring the sodas or beer if age allows, or it may be a proper but simple dinner, like a casserole.
Whatever it is, we know that the young people want a place to come where they can be themselves where they can play their records and dance, and where we “old ones” should refrain from interfering too much and must endure a more vociferous party than the one we usually throw. We must accept the young and let them do as they please.
It is not always easy to be present without taking part, but that’s often what they want. At the same time we do not like to leave our home to a herd of spirited youngsters. We do not like the feeling of being “chased out of our own home,” or go in fear that something bad could happen.
Will they forget their cigarette during the dance? we think nxiously. Will we find burn marks on the table, or holes burnt in the chairs? Will they destroy our fine new floor? Disturb the neighbors, so we will have unpleasantness afterwards?
It’s probably all these thoughts, and the feeling of being “undesirable” that makes many parents reluctant to invite young people to their homes. But here we should be able to arrive at a compromise with our children.
After having having wished our guests welcome we should reconcile with mostly being referred to another place in the house for the rest of the evening than the living room where the young congregate and dance. We must also assume that some of what we have forgotten from our adolescence years is how loudly young people express their joy.
Casseroles, and white bread are well suited for such gatherings.
3/4 kg [1,65 lb] sirloin beef
1/4 kg [0,55 lb] smoked ham
2 tablespoons butter
2,5 dl [0,5 pt] red wine
1/4 teaspoon nutmeg
1/4 teaspoon pepper
1/2 teaspoon whole cloves
1 tablespoon oil
1 whole leek
1/4 tin of green peas
3 tablespoons butter
100 g [3,5 oz] rice
4 tablespoons tomato paste
4 tablespoons cream
 Mix the marinade ingredients. Put the beef into a bowl, pour in the marinade, leave it for about 2 hours, turn the meat from time to time. Pick up the meat, wipe it extra well and cut it into small cubes. Cut ham in small cubes as well. Brown everything in 2 tablespoons butter in the frying pan.
 Clean the vegetables and cut it into slices. Brown the butter slightly a the pan, and turn the vegetables in it, then do the same with the rice. Add the browned meat to the pan and pour in the marinade. Add water till you got about 6 d / 1,2 pt of liquid.
 Let simmer over low heat about 1 hour, add the tomato puré and cream after 45 minutes.
 Serve piping hot with a basket of fresh white bread.
Beer is excellent for stews like this.
We serve the food in the kitchen
Put a colorful table cloth on the kitchen counter. Add plates, napkins and cutlery. Turn off the ceiling lamp and lit thick colourful candles that will providing a warm light, and together with the strong colors of the cloth will gives the kitchen a welcoming tavern feel.
Soup, bread and beer is well suited to such occations.
Kesakeito, Finnish Vegetable Soup
1 dl [0,2 pt] cleaned sugar peas
1 head of cauliflower
2 tablespoons chopped fresh spinach
1 liter [2 pt] water
2 teaspoons salt
2 tablespoons flour
2 dl [0,4 pt] cream
2 dl [0,4 pt] milk
1 tablespoon butter
2 tablespoons finely chopped parsley
 Cut the carrots and potatoes into cubes, cut the cauliflower into small florets. Place the vegetables in the pan and pour in boiling salted water, cook them barely tender.
 Stir the flour into the cream and whip this into the soup. Leave to simmer, add the milk and butter and heat it all through. Sprinkle with chopped parsley just before serving.